Bad Dog! Judgey McJudgersons in the House

The other day, Leda wrote about our tendency to judge other pet owners, doling out criticism like candy. I know how it is. People constantly tell us that our occasionally trembling Boston terrier needs a sweater. Often, they tell her directly that she needs a sweater. The excitement of said attention makes her tremble more. Why I haven’t yet been reported to the cops is a gosh-darn miracle.
Pet retailer Pet365 backed this up further with some survey findings, indicating an even more specific point of criticism: the relative goodness or badness of pet behavior. A quote from the company’s director, Matthew Beswick, sums it up for me. In a press release, via The Sacramento Bee, he says:
It’s fascinating that pet owners basically ignore their bad behaviour of their own dogs while accentuating the same in others.
Ain’t it, though.
I’ve definitely done it and heard it done, especially with big dogs. Not being used to it, an excited lab hitting me in the nose to say hi — surprise! — is an unexpected welcome. I, on the other hand, have a small dog, which means she’s an angel. (Pfft!) Gida always sits next to our visitors, whether they act like they like her or not. That’s pretty small potatoes, but she also doesn’t stop licking people once she’s allowed. Though I always tell her to stop — “Gida, the guests have already cleaned themselves” — I only recently wondered whether she’s earned a bad-dog label for that.
In any case, I will be minding my own beeswax, or at least trying to.
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Man, Emma gets her share of criticism. The other day someone called her “chunky” and suggested she be put on a diet (somewhat jokingly, I suppose). My husband replied “She’s a bulldog, that’s her shape!” I sometimes think a lot of it comes down to ignorance; small dogs shake and bulldogs are stout, but people who don’t know anything about small dogs/bulldogs are going to assume they look or behave a certain way because something is wrong with them. It’s hard not to take that sort of criticism personally – like, wow, this person thinks I made my dog fat, which in turn makes *me* judge *them* as ignorant. Never ending cycle, huh? :)
Definitely. Vicious circle of haterade!